Friday, September 16, 2011

Words of Marital Bliss

Got a hit on my "1000 Words" post below, from someone searching for "words of marital bliss". However, I am pretty sure that my post was not what they were seeking.

Marital Bliss is a pretty tough subject. The fact is, marriage takes work. It takes sacrifice. It requires a willingness to subordinate your will when required in order to do what is right for the union. Selfishness will not fly for very long. Nor will pettiness and drama.

I am far from perfect. I have made just about every mistake a married man can make. I have mistreated my wife by being disrespectful, dismissive, selfish, arrogant, pigheaded, obtuse, and lazy as a husband. I have glaring faults, and I recognize them. Why does she still love me? Beats the hell out of me but she does.

I'll tell you this though, she is the center of my happiness here on Earth. She is my best friend, my strongest supporter, and a fierce advocate for what is good and right in the world. We have been together through good times and bad, through sickness and health, and will be until the day we die.

Words of Marital Bliss? I have a few. "I love you" and "I am sorry" cover a lot of things. You better mean them, too. Be willing to change. Not because she wants you to, but because you want to become a better, more complete person for her. Face it, you are going to fail (often) as a partner. Recognize it, be honest about it, and keep working at it. Do not quit.

Be willing to do the things that she wants to do. You might find that you enjoy opera, art galleries, museums, and Jane Austen novels. After all, you want her to enjoy things that go Vrooom, Bang, and Boom, right?

Listen to her. Listen to the words she says, and also the things she leaves unsaid. She will tell you what she needs. Be attentive, and show her that you care by your actions. She will appreciate it, and you will be happier in the long run.

Finally, just as you have chosen her, recognize that she was the one who chose you. She was willing to put up with some of the bad in order to enjoy what is good and fun and right about who you are. Accentuate those things, but be yourself.

I hope this helps.



North said...

I married someone that likes vroom, bang, and boom.

Both in the bedroom and out.


Scott McCray said...

Wise words, sir...